Coaching & Workshops

You find out why people leave at the exit interview. That is too late.

A stay interview asks your best people what would make them leave while you can still do something about it. This session teaches managers how to run one without it turning into a performance review or a pay negotiation.

Why it matters

Exit interviews are an autopsy.

By the time someone is leaving, the decision is months old and the reasons have been rewritten to be polite. You learn something, but you learn it about a person you have already lost, and usually too late to help the three others thinking the same thing.

A stay interview asks the same questions while the answer can still change something. The obstacle is not the questions. It is that most managers have never had a conversation with a good employee that was not about performance or pay, and they find it awkward.

What the session covers

  • The questions that work. Specific enough to get a real answer, open enough to be honest.
  • Keeping it separate. Not a review, not a pay conversation, and not a prelude to either.
  • Hearing something you cannot fix. What to say when the honest answer is out of your control.
  • Acting on it. A stay interview with no follow-through is worse than not asking.

In the room

How we spend the time.

Who to ask, and when

Not everyone, and not annually. We work out which conversations matter most and how often they are worth having.

Running the conversation

Practised, because the first one is always stilted and the difference between a real answer and a polite one is mostly in the manager's manner.

What you do with it

Themes across conversations tell you more than any single one, and someone has to own acting on them.

Signs you need this

How this usually shows up.

If you are finding out about the cause at the exit interview, you are running an autopsy programme rather than a retention programme.

If two or three of these are true you are past the point where it resolves on its own. None of them are unusual, and all of them are cheaper to fix than to wait out.

Sound familiar

  • You have lost two or more people in the last year you genuinely did not want to lose.
  • Exit interviews keep surfacing things you could have fixed.
  • Managers cannot tell you what would make their best person leave.
  • Counteroffers are your main retention tool.

Afterward

What changes.

You hear it while you can act

Which is the entire point. The same information, months earlier.

Managers get a real conversation

Most have never had one with a good employee that was not about performance or pay.

Themes emerge

Individual answers matter less than the pattern across ten conversations.

How it runs

Half a day, senior-led, no slides for the sake of slides.

Managers of people you would be hurt to lose. Frequently paired with a flight-risk scan so they know who to talk to first.

Sessions run on site or virtually, and they are built around situations attendees bring rather than case studies from a textbook. You get a fixed fee before we start, and the person who scopes it is the person who delivers it.

Practicalities

  • Half a day in most cases, longer if combined with a related session.
  • On site or virtual, whichever suits your people.
  • Built on your situations, not generic scenarios.
  • Fixed fee, agreed before anything starts.

Questions

Common questions

Will people be honest?

More than you expect, and much more the second time, once they have seen something change after the first.

Is this the same as an engagement survey?

No. A survey tells you what is happening across the organisation. A stay interview tells you what would keep one specific person you cannot afford to lose.

Who should attend?

Managers of people you would be badly hurt to lose. Often paired with a flight-risk scan so they know who to prioritise.

How long?

Half a day including practice.

What if we cannot act on what we hear?

Say so honestly and explain why. People accept a straight no far better than a vague maybe followed by silence.

How often should we run them?

Once or twice a year for the people who matter most. More often and it becomes a ritual people learn to give safe answers to.

What if the manager is the reason they would leave?

Then you need the conversation happening one level up as well, and we cover how to structure that without it looking like an investigation.

Should HR run these instead of managers?

Managers, in almost all cases. An HR-run interview gets more polished answers. The relationship is the point.

Related

What this pairs with.

Retention & Flight Risk

Find out who to have these conversations with first.

Retention & Flight Risk →

Career Conversations

The question that comes up most often in a stay interview.

Career Conversations →

Exit Interviews

For the people you did not get to in time.

Exit Interviews →

Senior-led, delivered by the person you meet

Ask while the answer can still change something.

Tell us who you cannot afford to lose and we will scope a session. No obligation, and we will say if one of the others fits better.

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