Coaching & Workshops

Your feedback culture is everyone being nice until the annual review.

Most feedback training teaches a formula that nobody uses on a Tuesday. This session works on the actual barrier, which is that managers are afraid of the reaction, and builds the habit of saying the useful thing at the time.

Why it matters

People do not avoid feedback because they lack a model.

Everyone has been taught a framework. They still say nothing, because the real barrier is anticipating the other person's face. So feedback gets saved up for the review, where it arrives as a surprise and lands as an ambush.

Saved-up feedback is also unfair. Six months of small corrections delivered at once reads as a character assessment rather than a set of fixable things, and the person quite reasonably feels blindsided.

What the session covers

  • Saying it at the time. Thirty seconds on Tuesday beats thirty minutes in December.
  • The reaction you are dreading. What to do when someone gets defensive, upset, or argues.
  • Praise that is worth something. Specific and timely, not a round of applause in the team meeting.
  • Receiving it. Managers who cannot take feedback do not get any.

In the room

How we spend the time.

The two-minute version

Most feedback does not need a meeting. We practise the short, in-the-moment version that is actually sustainable.

Handling the reaction

Defensiveness, tears, and the person who agrees with everything and changes nothing. Each needs a different response.

Upward and sideways

Feedback to a peer or to your own manager, which is where most people have no model at all.

Signs you need this

How this usually shows up.

A good test: ask a manager when they last told someone something mildly uncomfortable. If they have to think about it, the habit is not there.

If two or three of these are true you are past the point where it resolves on its own. None of them are unusual, and all of them are cheaper to fix than to wait out.

Sound familiar

  • Feedback in your organisation happens at review time and almost nowhere else.
  • People are surprised by their reviews.
  • Managers describe their teams accurately to you and vaguely to the team.
  • Nobody gives their manager feedback, and everyone has some.

Afterward

What changes.

Feedback becomes small and frequent

Which is the only version that is sustainable and the only version people can act on.

Reviews get easier

Because nothing in them is new to anyone.

It starts going upward

Teams that get honest feedback start giving it, which is where the real value is.

How it runs

Half a day, senior-led, no slides for the sake of slides.

Managers at any level. Often run for an intact team, including the manager, which is more uncomfortable and considerably more effective.

Sessions run on site or virtually, and they are built around situations attendees bring rather than case studies from a textbook. You get a fixed fee before we start, and the person who scopes it is the person who delivers it.

Practicalities

  • Half a day in most cases, longer if combined with a related session.
  • On site or virtual, whichever suits your people.
  • Built on your situations, not generic scenarios.
  • Fixed fee, agreed before anything starts.

Questions

Common questions

How is this different from performance conversations?

This is the everyday habit. Performance conversations are for when a pattern has become a problem. Doing this well means you need those far less often.

Who should attend?

Anyone who manages, and often the whole team. A team that has all had the same session gives each other feedback far more readily.

Is there roleplay?

Yes, and it is the part people dread and the part that works. We keep it grounded in situations attendees actually brought.

How long?

Half a day. A full day if combined with performance conversations.

Can you run it for senior leaders?

Yes. Senior teams often have the worst feedback habits, because nobody has told them anything difficult in years.

Will this work if our culture is very conflict-averse?

It is precisely where it is most needed and it takes longer. We would set expectations with you about that rather than promise a single session fixes it.

What about remote teams?

Feedback is harder remotely because the casual moments disappear. We cover the specific adjustments, and it pairs well with the distributed teams session.

Do people practise on real situations?

Yes. Attendees bring something they have been avoiding, and most leave having planned the actual conversation.

Related

What this pairs with.

Performance Conversations

For when a pattern has become a problem that needs naming.

Performance Conversations →

360 Feedback

Find out how your leaders are actually landing before you train them.

360 Feedback →

Coaching Skills for Managers

Feedback is most of what coaching actually is.

Coaching Skills for Managers →

Senior-led, delivered by the person you meet

Make feedback a Tuesday habit, not a December event.

Tell us about your team and we will scope a session. No obligation, and we will say if one of the others fits better.

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